Tag Archive | Feelings

Can a Food Addict Cheat in Moderation?

Nov19

Everybody knows about eating in moderation, but have you ever heard of cheating in moderation? (I’m talking only about food now.)

I had never even thought about cheating on eating until today. Last night I decided to make a batch of chocolate chip cookies. I was hungry for something sweet, usually the kiss of death for this food addict.

So I made a batch of Toll House cookies. I wasn’t feeling panicky or anything. I just wanted a couple of cookies. Now, it’s all well and good to say to yourself, “I’ll just eat a couple of cookies”, but someone with an addiction of any kind knows that’s not usually how it goes.

And because that’s not usually how it goes, I had never considered being able to do that, eat just a few cookies and then stop.

I had gotten into the habit of abstaining from occasional sweets in order to avoid the addictive behavior that always seemed to follow.

In the past, the avoidance behavior would work for a while but eventually the cravings would be so bad that the stress alone would cause me to eat everything in sight.

Well, I made the cookies and baked just a few. Then I covered the rest of the batter and put it in the refrigerator. I surprised myself by not getting up in the middle of the night with the desire to stuff down the rest of the batch. I felt content, not stressed.

Today, I baked the rest of the cookies, ate two, then carefully packaged the rest and took them to work with me. I put them in our break room with a little note inviting my coworkers to try them.

My friends at work kept coming over to my counter to tell me how delicious the cookies were and to thank me for bringing them in.

The pleasure I got from that experience far outweighed any satisfaction I would have gotten from stuffing my feelings down with food. I got to enjoy the cookies and the feelings.

I cheated on my food addiction and it felt great!

5 Ways to Tell if You Have a Problem With Food Addiction

Feb2

Food addictions are more than just emotional eating or overeating. There are very specific behaviours associated with a food addiction. Here are five ways to tell if your eating pattern signals a food addiction.

  1. Your mind goes to food at the first sign of stress.
  2. You have an uncontrollable urge to eat when you feel uncomfortable, regardless of the situation.
  3. You eat forbidden foods out of sight of others, i.e. the bathroom or the car.
  4. You feel ashamed when you buy a candy bar, chips, or ice cream, often making excuses to the cashier during the purchase.
  5. You continue to eat as if you are starving, even after you feel full and continuing to eat is making you feel uncomfortable.

When you are addicted to something, you feel as though you cannot live without it, as if you will cease to exist if you cannot get what you need immediately.

Food addictions are no different from other types of addictions. First you feel out of control (stress) and then you act out of control (stuffing down your feelings with food).

Regaining control is the only way to pull out of the situation. Sometimes that happens in a matter of minutes. At other times, it may take hours or even days. When my sister died, I ate for several days non-stop.

Everyone is different but two things remain constant. Emotional trauma is always at the root of a food addiction, and stress is always the trigger.

There are many warning signs when it comes to food addictions but if you have these five, chances are you’re in deep. It may be time to ask for help.

Fight Your Food Addiction With Friendship

Jan23

I was talking with a young woman today, younger than me at least, about friendship.  Marisa told me  how she had dreamed about being a nurse, falling in love and having a family.

She laughed about how she and her two best friends had their lives all planned out as she ate a bag of Doritos and drink half of a two liter bottle of Pepsi.

“I was one hot Mama then” she said sadly. “Look at me now”. Tears filled her eyes and her voice trailed off.  Marisa supports herself and her two children by working two jobs.  She hasn’t heard from her friends in four years.

“It seems like all I do is eat. I used to talk to my friends when I was lonely, or sad, or tired. We talked all the time, and now all I do is eat. I feel so ashamed. This is my life.”

Food addiction is often the result of life circumstances we cannot control. Food is the mother of all comforts and can be quite irresistible when it is always available when you need to feel comforted and supported.

In Marisa’s case, her boyfriend left and she had to drop out of college to support her children. With no support system and too ashamed to talk to her friends after she gained the first 25 pounds, she went to work and took care of the kids.

Too tired and discouraged to think about anything but the wolves at her door, Marisa eats. She doesn’t deny it. She says it’s her only comfort now, but she does hope to go to nursing school one day.

Although she is involved in her daughters’ lives, she says she misses her friends most of all. Not necessarily the ones she palled around with in college but just friends in general, those special people around whom you can always be yourself without fear of being judged.

Marisa joined a women’s health club two weeks ago. She said she is looking for something to replace the need to eat when the shame surfaces.

We hear a lot about the necessity of support systems when dealing with emotional overeating, compulsive eating and food addiction, but the word “friendship” doesn’t always turn up in the conversation.

The impersonality of this high-tech world sometimes overshadows the need for and the value of friendship. In a perfect world, every one would have a friend.

Marisa hopes to make new friends at the health club. She wants to be an better role model for her teenage children who are already experiencing the consequences of being overweight. She wants to see her dream of being a nurse come true.

Most of all, she wants to feel like a loved, appreciated and valued human being whether she is fat or slim. In her own words, “I want to be comfortable in my own skin regardless of my size, and I want to have friends again who accept me as I am.”

Friendship trumps overeating in every category. If you can talk to a friend about your feelings instead of stuffing them down with food and hiding behind the shame, chances are you will find a way to overcome your fears and your food addictions.