Today I am reminded of how hard it is to change your life without a support system in place. Not everyone has family or friends in their corner when they are in need.

Food addiction is an extreme response to stress. Whatever the cause, if you want to have any quality of life, you have to have someone in your corner. That’s the only way you will survive.

A food addiction is not some passing fancy or an occasional episode of overeating. Food addicts aren’t just a bunch of fat people who can’t stop eating.

People need to be allowed to be who they are without having to define or defend their actions at every turn.

You can’t spend your whole life proving yourself. There comes a time when people either accept you or they don’t. Only you can know when you’ve had enough. If one or the other has to move on, so be it.

The feeling that you have to constantly prove yourself to win someone’s acceptance is one of the underlying causes of food addiction. It emotionally cripples the addict and sets them up for failure.

Some relationship issues may never be resolved to the satisfaction of all the parties involved, and it is best just to let go and move on.

Why risk constant setbacks, feelings of rage, self-hate and humiliation when you know what they do to you? Why keep starting over again and again and again?

My best advice on that is to learn and practice Divine, unconditional love. Let people be who they are but don’t sacrifice yourself in the process. Divine love doesn’t judge, doesn’t process, and doesn’t fail. Let that be your guide.

Find a safe place where you can feel happy and joyful, a quiet place, a favorite haven where you feel strong and sure. Make it your temple and don’t share it with anyone.

Food addicts already have problems with hormone imbalances. Strong emotional reactions to trigger events and trigger people make things worse.

Collect joyful, wonderful moments and store them up for those times when there simply is no one there for you. Relive the moments in your safe place and let them strengthen you and make you whole again, so you can carry on.